by Polly Ingraham
Gently powerful, especially for those of us who see the good and the bad that can come from doctrinal religion. Faith, "or something that can stand for it," describe for me a person's two choices.
This piece resonates with my rising-but-not-fully-baked sense of myself. Well done! I want to know whether Polly married her inquisitor, and that's why she's now a pastor's wife. Also, I loved the Carnation Instant Breakfast reference!
This is a beautiful examination about what we can really know and understand about one another and the power of love to overcome the spaces between us. For Polly and the person she loves it centers on questions of faith. But in more universal terms it addresses sharing, acceptance and being an individual at the same time you become a couple. I would love to read more.
Polly Ingraham’s ability to bring humor and tenderness to such a weighty moment between would-be lovers is phenomenal. I fluctuated between fearfully holding my breath and laughing out loud. As she has throughout her writing (I highly recommend her blog The Pastor and the Pastor’s Wife), Polly is a master at recognizing and capturing dualities that come together in some way, and she channels this opposition in her humor. Who would ever imagine playfully linking reincarnation and Carnation Instant Breakfast or a priest's somber description of being saved with Bob Marley? Only Polly Ingraham. Our lives would be greatly enriched to find out what happened before and after this scene. I want more!
I'd like to know what happens next, did she become a believer? or are they separate and together at the same time?
What I love about this writing is that Polly, in such eloquent prose, strikes straight into the heart of how love, attraction and respect can transcend fundamental beliefs and allow two individuals to be open to learn from each other because of that love, attraction and respect and in spite of the different viewpoints. This message is so powerful and provides such a fantastic lesson not only in the world of faith but in politics as well where divisiveness comes from the inability to listen and learn from people of different views and perspectives. In politics it may not be a matter of love and attraction helping the transcendence but respect sure could do the trick along with the importance of listening.
A lovely excerpt, Polly. My conversations with Mark have not been so profound, but I share with you the awe that comes with being with someone as devout as Rob. Good for you for probing it all and then writing about it so eloquently.